Social Distancing and your Individual Personality Blueprinting

Social Distancing and Your Individual Personality Blueprinting

Surviving and thriving during month two of social distancing; when you are feeling like you just had enough!

This has been an unprecedented and challenging time for all of us. There are many different ways in which we may be challenged during this COVID-19 pandemic.

In my coaching practice I have the opportunity to work with many different people and different individual personality blueprints. Clients have shared with me the struggles that they have bumped up against with their loved ones during this “stay at home” period.

It is useful to be aware that whatever irritation comes up with another during this time can get magnified because we don’t have the normal distractions to buffer the things that trigger us.

Clients have found it fascinating and useful in understanding the way that they are wired and with those whom they interact with on daily basis; especially during this time of social distancing and being home bound.

I don’t believe in using systems to put people in boxes. Understanding one’s self and others is instrumental in weathering this COVID-19 storm.

I want to emphasize that in working with many personality typing systems, I have found that we are never 100% of any type, but rather have default unconscious drivers of how we navigate through our daily life.

Here are some of the systems I use in accessing your individual personality blueprinting. (You need not concern yourself with learning all of these systems as I customize it for you).

MBTI: Myers Briggs Type Indicator-Introvert or Extrovert, Intuitive or Sensing, Thinking or Feeling, Perceiving or Judging
Enneagram Personality Trifecta-3 Main Enneagram Drivers
Enneagram Instinctual Survival Stacking– the unconscious ways that make you feel safe and how you would like to get your needs to be met
Core energetics based on William Reich’s character structures– another part of your gifts and defense strategies.(The character structures listed below are not being used in this manner as a clinical diagnosis).

Oral

Schizoid

Rigid

Psychopathic

Masochistic

Here is an example of Individual Personality Blueprinting:

MBTI score: 84% extrovert and 16% introvert. and the 3 other categories were 51% and 49%. ENFP is another way to state this score
Enneagram Personality Trifecta: Type 7,2,8 (the enthusiast, the helper, the challenger) respectively
Enneagram Instinctual Survival Stacking is:

1st is Sexual: focuses on 1:1 relationships, self revealing, and intimacy

2nd is Self-preservation: focuses on survival needs, safety, food, money, resources, health and conserving energy

3rd is Social/Tribal: focuses on groups,causes and the collective

Core energetic character structure is:

Primary type: Oral craves more external connection

Secondary type: Schizoid avoids too much external connection

So what do you do with all this information and how can it help?

When working with clients dealing with relationship issues, I can use their profile and compare it with whomever they are struggling with and can see immediately where they will complement and challenge each other.

Identifying and understanding your individual personality blueprinting gives you the tools to identify your underlying needs and triggers, and the compassion that accompanies understanding others without taking it personally.

There are many challenges that we have in common during this time of social distancing but how we deal with them is where this information is invaluable.

An example of this is:

Anne is more of one-to-one relational personality. During the stay at home period she may look forward to spending alone and intimate time with her partner.

But, let’s say that her partner Joe is more of a social/tribal personality type. During this time he may prefer to do zoom group calls, keeping up with his friends on social media or touch base with many others and not just Anne.

In this case what is predictable is that Anne will feel disappointed and unfulfilled with Joe, She may believe that Joe’s decision to spend his time in that way means that he doesn’t care, she feels hurt and then may become angry.

If Joe wants Anne to either join him on his group calls or not, or doesn’t want to spend so much alone time with her, and if she expresses her discontent then Joe may feel hurt, angry and resentful as if Anne doesn’t care about what makes him happy.

The example above demonstrates how a lack of understanding the differences in our underlying needs cause rifts and disconnection in relationships of all kinds.

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