Groundhogs Day and Relationships

What inspired me to write this blog is that this topic has been coming up in my coaching practice with clients.

They want things to alter in their relationships but keep trying to change the outcome through the same lens.

“The definition of insanity is doing the same thing repeatedly, expecting a different result each time.”

This concept always reminds me of the movie “Groundhog’s Day” starring Bill Murray and Andie MacDowell. If you have not seen this movie, I highly recommend it.

The movie is about a selfish, callous weatherman named Phil O’Connor. Who is assigned for the fourth year to cover the superstition of whether the Groundhog will see his shadow or not?

Once he covers the story, he finds himself caught in a snowstorm. He must stay in Punxsutawney, Pa, and awakens the next morning, repeatedly finding himself in a continuous time loop of Groundhog’s day.

Eventually, Phil sees his own shadow, so to speak, and changes from being inconsiderate, insensitive, and selfish into a thoughtful, kindhearted philanthropist, refining his understanding of human decency, which, in return, makes him an appreciated and beloved man in the town.

Groundhogs Day and Relationships

What is the meaning behind Groundhog Day?

It derives from the Pennsylvania Dutch and originally German superstition that if a groundhog emerges from its burrow on this day and sees its shadow due to clear weather, it will retreat to its den, and winter will go on for six more weeks; if it does not see its shadow because of cloudiness, Spring will arrive early.

So how does this pertain to your relationships?

It occurred to me that Spring is a time of joy, with many things to look forward to as the nice weather approaches and like our wishes for positive change in our relationships to create greater love, affinity, and connection.

The shadow of the Groundhog represents our shadow or blindspots that, once discovered, give rise to a different perspective, way of being, and other outcomes.

Have you been struggling with a relationship with another? Or with your relationship with yourself?

Do you find that you have tried many different strategies only to end up in the same place with the same outcome?

It may be time for a different perspective.

Let’s stop your version of Groundhog’s Day!

I have worked with many clients, imparting practical tools and practices to remove the blinders that block them from having loving and satisfying relationships.

“Iris has an uncanny ability to relate to people in ways they may have never imagined possible. In doing so, she can create results in personal awareness, communication, and collaboration that far exceed anything I have experienced elsewhere. She is genuine, creative, and 100% committed to her clients and their success—a brilliant choice for anyone.”


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